Forgiveness is the action taken to pardon those who offended
us.
It is the hardest thing we can do because our mind is
programmed to be hurt when things do not go the way we expected them too.
That is why even at a young age we feel hurt when someone
takes our toys.
Or insults us.
Sometimes we hold onto that feeling evoked by actions and
the words uttered by other people.
As we grow older we learn the term forgiveness from our
parents, the bible or the Quran.
We are instructed to forgive about 77 times and we are also
told when someone slaps you on one cheek turn the other to them.
But it really is the hardest thing you will ever do.
Sometimes forgiveness feels like you are the lower person,
it feels like you are bending over backward for someone else to run all over
you.
That is why you should never forgive for others, forgive for
yourself.
Td Jakes said forgiveness is the cleansing of the heart.
Holding a grudge is like a negative seed that is planted,
and every seed that is planted and watered will grow. When someone wrongs you;
that is a seed planted.
When you start thinking about how they wronged you; that is
watering the seed.
The more you think about it, the more you start disliking
the person.
The dislike soon turns to anger and hate.
Hate and anger feed off your thoughts and the tree grows
until that is all you can think about.
Your world revolves around that hate and soon it consumes
you.
That weight you carry around will drag you down and will
only be released in forgiveness.
So no do not forgive for the person who wronged you. Do not
forgive because it will give them a second chance.
Forgive because it will give you a second chance.
Forgive because you deserve to live your life and not be in
the shadow of someone else.
Forgive because you make the right decisions based on what
is good for you.
It may not seem like it but the more you hold on to the past
the more power you are giving them over you.
Do you want them to still control your life and dictate
every action you are doing? Look to the future.
Another important lesson on forgiveness is asking for
forgiveness from people you have wronged. Saying I am sorry is tougher than
saying I love you. Because I am sorry means that you are the one who made a
mistake. But the cost of guilt is higher than the cost of an apology. It might
not seem like it but guilt is another silent killer that will eat at your
subconscious.
The last important lesson is self-forgiveness.
This is the act of knowing that; yes I am human. Yes, I will
make a thousand mistakes before the day is over. But I know when I trip and I
ask for forgiveness.
Do not be too hard on yourself and start hating yourself.
You made a mistake, learn from the mistake and let that
failure and mistake make you a better version of yourself.
And always always remember our mantra:
You are CONFIDENCE.
You are AWESOME.
YOU ARE AMAZING.
I know this is not enough material, so if you are looking to
forgive someone and the real meaning of forgiveness visit your spiritual
advisors like a pastor, Father, Imam or Dalai Lama. Talk to them about what you
are holding in your heart and they will definitely help you find your way back.
Remember forgiveness is like that bitter pill, tough going
down but after taking it you feel so much better.
UNTIL NEXT TIME ADIOS.
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